“How do we stay calm when the thermometer of love plummets?”

In the long-distance run of love, contradictions and conflicts are inevitable, they are like a sudden storm, testing the patience and wisdom of every couple, in the face of these challenges, we often need to calm down and find the key to solving the problem, but it is easier said than done, how to stay calm in love conflicts and avoid emotional decision-making is a topic that everyone in love needs to learn.

Understand the nature of contradictions

We need to understand the nature of contradictions, in love, conflicts often stem from differences in needs, expectations and values of both parties, which may not be obvious in daily life, but in certain situations, they will erupt like volcanoes, and recognizing this can help us look at contradictions more objectively, rather than seeing them as intentional by the other party.

Listen and communicate

When conflicts occur, it is crucial to listen to each other’s views and feelings, effective communication is not only about expressing one’s own opinions, but more importantly, understanding the other person, which means that we need to let go of ourselves and really listen to each other’s thoughts and feelings, through listening, we can find the root cause of the conflict, so as to find a way to solve the problem.

Emotional management

Emotional management is the key to calmly dealing with conflicts, when we are emotional, it is easy for us to make impulsive decisions, say things that hurt the other person, learn to control our emotions, and avoid making decisions in anger or sadness, it is very important to take a deep breath, leave the scene temporarily, meditate and other methods can help us calm down.

Seek third-party advice

It may be difficult to see the full picture of the problem from our own perspective, in which case it may be a good idea to seek the opinion of a third party, which can be a trusted friend, family member, or professional counselor who can provide an objective perspective and help us understand the problem more comprehensively.

Develop a solution

Once we understand the root of the conflict and calm down, the next step is to develop a solution, which requires cooperation and compromise from both parties, and when developing a solution, take into account the needs and feelings of both parties and find a compromise that is acceptable to both parties.

Practice and reflection

Putting solutions into practice and constantly reflecting and adjusting in practice, without a one-and-done solution, conflicts in love may recur, and through practice and reflection, we can continuously improve our handling methods and make the relationship more solid. …